Rochester, NY: September 27, 2022 at age 58. Our precious Mother Tammy passed from a courageous battle with ovarian cancer. She is predeceased by her mother Gail Marie King, her father Wayne Leroy King, Grandson Nicholas Robert Torregrossa Jr., and sister Kelly King. She is survived by her daughters, Lacey Perkins, Nicole King (Mustapha), and Jessica Torregrossa (Nicholas); Stepmother Eleanor King; her sister Roxanne King; her brothers Todd King (predeceased Michelle King) and Joseph King (Connie); her 3 Granddaughters, Shanice Blake (Dakota), Olivia Torregrossa, and Nicole Taylor.
Thank you to Hildebrandt Hospice staff for their compassionate care. The family will have a private ceremony to honor her wishes.
Mom, I’m scared of what life’s without you like. I find myself selfishly wishing you Were here I already miss your morning calls. But I wouldn’t want you to suffer again. I know you are with me and I will always love and Miss you with all my heart. I’m so glad that god gave me some time with you. To care for you. You are truly the strongest women I know. And to get to know you and your story. I will always have great respect for you and why you were the way you were you never changed for anyone. I will forever be grateful for who you were. And yet There’s a part of me that went with you that day. How do I say goodbye? To someone who’s been with me for my whole life. You gave me my name and the color of my eyes. I see your face when I look at mine. So how do I say goodbye? Mom, there’s no way to make up for time lost and now gone but I hope in heaven you know that you are
truly loved and I hope you
Have found peace now.
Love always Jessie ❤️
Jessie Nikki and lacey I’m so sorry to hear of your loss she was a strong funny loving caring woman she was always accepting of everyone I definitely have some great memories of her she will be truly missed if you need anything lmk love and miss you all god bless
Sending you my deepest condolences and power of prayer during this time of reflection to help guide you and keep you grounded for yourself and your family. She’s now an angelic guardian angel that will watch over and protect you throughout this next chapter of your life. Reach out anytime. I’m here for you as I was in the past.
My heart breaks for all of you girls, Tammy was my 2nd mom throughout my child hood she was the best she would unlock the door for me every morning and let me come sleep my morning away while skipping school 🥰 she was the best she never held back for anyone she was bold and lively and a blast to be around I’m so sad to hear this heartbreaking news she will truly be missed my thoughts and prayers go out to your family while dealing with this loss. Love always Amber
Tammy was like a aunt to me growing up she all ways keep it real that’s what I loved about her. she was one of kind. Fly high Tammy! Sending my condolences to family.
Love, Sarah 💞
I miss you so much every single day. My heart hurts so bad without you here. It still doesn’t feel real that you’re gone but I know you’ll always be with me. You were so strong and now I have to try and be strong for you but that almost seems impossible. I don’t know how to live life without you. You fought so hard for so long and still managed to keep your spirit so strong that on most days no one would even be able to tell you didn’t feel good. I don’t think this feeling of missing you will ever get any easier. I wish you never had to go but I hated watching you in so much pain and feeling like there was nothing I could do to help. I miss you so so so much mom. I love you forever and ever ❤️🦋
To my niece’s I am so sorry that you have to feel the pain of losing such a great person like yoir mother.
Tammy was one of a kind, we got alot closer after our dad passed away I only wish we had more time
I miss hearing her voice everytime my phone rings I hope it’s her but it’s not I did talk to her a few day’s before she passed and the last thing I told her was I love you. Little sister I miss you soo much my heart has a big hole in it but I know your looking down on us You are free from pain and I hope someday to see you again. I’m glad your daughters were with you at the end because you told me over and over again that the only people you want with you at the end were your kids and grandkids because they were the most important people in your life and you loved them so much. I’m blessed to have had such a wonderful sistet in my life. I love you Tammy see you again one day.
All my love
Roxanne
Grammy
I’ll start by saying how deeply I love you. I’ve always known how special you were to me and how special I was to you. For as long as I can remember you’ve always been a constant in my life. It was easy as a kid to ask to go to Grams, I could always come over & know I’d be served the best toast and butter (for some reason it tasted so much better when u made it) I could sit and watch cartoons in the living room with you, or sit on the porch and people watch (your favorite – I was happy to do anything with you). I always felt like your little partner in crime whenever it was just the two of us.
I can still hear the country tunes blaring from the stereo as you clean downstairs, or hearing the mouse on the computer click from you playing your games, smelling your tanning oil when you were in the back yard tanning, the smell of your coffee on the end tables, and either a soap opera or Nancy Drew on the TV.
Us kids got older but, my relationship with you has always stayed the same.
You’re the strongest woman I know, the fiercest, the most beautiful, the most caring.
We’ve spoken almost everyday for the past three years, after we found out you’ve gotten sick. Some days you just needed your sleep or some quiet. I’ve been so scared of loosing you since we found out. I never thought God would take my Person from me, my Grammy ,let alone so many peoples Person.
The last words you said to me were “I’m going to miss everyone so much”.
I will miss you for the rest of my life. I will love you forever. I will keep you alive with the memories I have of you. My future children will know you. In my dreams I’ll find you. In this life I will be proud to be of you.
I am incredibly broken and don’t know how to live a life without you.
I know these words have made it to Heaven and I know you’re telling me “I’m Okay Shorty” I know you are. Please give everyone a kiss from me up there. Please keep an eye on Mom, Lacey, Jessie & Nicole. I know they need you.
That was incredibly beautiful Shanice, my condolences go out to you, your sister, your mom and Jessica and Lacey. God Bless.
Grammy
I miss you so much but I am at peace knowing you are no longer in pain. I miss being little and getting the best ramen noodles when I was feeling sick and spent the day with you. And I will never forget coming over for Christmas break and spending hours trying to make little cakes in my easy bake oven that you would refuse to eat. You were the best Grammy and the best mom. I will always remember those times and will make sure your memory never fades. I will take care of your girls so don’t you worry about us. Love you always 💛
My deepest sympathies are with you and your family, that so beautiful what you wrote. ❤️
The world has lost a very special girl beautiful charismatic she will be missed by very many of us
God bless you Tammy king may you rest in peace I will sure miss not seeing you walk across the front of my yard in the summertime rest in peace my dear rest in peace✝️💟🛐☯️☪️❤️🩹
my sincerest condolences to Tammy kings family for your loss we all lost a beautiful soul she will be greatly missed she will always be in my heart I’ll always remember her and white and her laugh and her smiling just gotta miss her so much my heart is broken I will miss you and you will always be in my heart forever Tammy king your friend Normen
Tammy King and all white🤍
Tammy… Where do I begin? I guess it will be with I’m soooooooo sorry. Our family has been broken and so dysfunctional for the longest time. When we were all young, there were so many mixed messages about how to behave. After the horrible accident that took your Mom and baby sister, your life and those of your brother and sister were so trauma filled. Instead of love and support, you all received criticism and disdain. In my immaturity and lack of spiritual depth, I was unable to acknowledge the pain you and Todd and Roxanne were experiencing, especially since my own life was imploding with my parents divorce. It’s been many years since I last saw you at Jessica’s wedding. I wish we had a chance to get to know one another in our more mature years. I never really knew the woman you became. The shenanigans of our younger years were nothing to be wanting to remember, but they are what made our family of women as strong as we are. God has to have been with us through all these years. If not, we could not have survived those younger, dumber years! May you rest in peace dear cousin. May God Bless you and keep you and your girls safe and loved forever and ever. Amen!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I had the pleasure to get to know her she was a hilarious women. I never knew she was ill it breaks my heart to hear she’s no longer with us. She’s among our angel’s which I truly believe in! Even though she’s not here physically she’s here spiritually. Tammy it was truly a pleasure to have been a friend to you and you will be missed terribly. Your in peace now sweetie. I’m gonna miss seeing you at the beach and visiting our house in the summer time with Norman he’s a mess over hearing your loss.Your gonna be missed terribly honey. Please continue to look over all of us especially your children. GOD BLESS YOU princess. I’ll save this forever until it’s my time. You were too young to leave us. Sending condolences to your family and children. Rest In Peace beautiful.
My Deepest Sympathy During Goes got to the Family at This Difficult time!My Dear sweet Friend!Your were very strong and u put up a Hood Fight!I hate cancer for taking u’No More Pain. Fly High Beautiful Queen!Im missing u so so Much!I Love you Always And Forever!Until we meet again Fly Higjh AngelOur Friend Norman!
Aunt Tammy, I’m so glad I was able to speak with you a little bit before your passing. I wish I was able to get to know your more, and I am grateful that you are not suffering anymore and are at peace. I know you are in heaven with Grandpa and Grandma Gail, and Aunt Kelly. ❤️
I’ll never forget your beautiful smile and those farmer jeans. It so painful knowing your not a phone call away anymore. We had a lot of good times and fond memories. It brings tear’s to my eyes knowing you won’t be at the beach any more or stopping over for coffee. God how I miss you. We had lots of laughter and good times what am I to do now? I ask myself it won’t be the same wo you honey. I miss you terribly. Your out of pain now and in a better place. We will see each other again someday. Until then I have our memories to remember you by. Your dear friend Norman!
To Nicole and the King Family, I’m sorry for the loss of your beautiful Mom. It is clear from knowing you Nicole that she had to be a special, strong and loving mother. May you all focus on the many happy memories that you have together, and may she continue to shine through all of you and all the people she touched. Sending prayers 🙏🏼 and condolences to you all.
Oh my, rest sweetly tammy. Jessica, nicole, I wish we stayed in contact when you guys were on magee. I’ve thought about you guys often in recent years. I just googled jessys married name and saw Tammy is gone. She never let me go without when I was a kid on woodhill. I should of asked Rob where to find you guys as he plays band next to my dads house. I am so sorry to hear shes gone. Stay strong. ~Becky
Tammy, it’s been one month since you left your lived ones behind. I didn’t get to know you very well but the memories people have shared here are beautiful. I do want to apologize for venting some frustrations (nothing about you personally, just regarding some of my own issues) during our last phone call. Please forgive me and know that I never intended to hurt you or distress you. I admired and respected you for calling mom (Eleanor King) every day to check on her, despite your own personal pains and struggles. God bless you, and may you rest in peace.
It still doesn’t feel real. I wish you could come back, even if it was just our little secret. I need you
Happy thanksgiving lil sis I miss you. I know your looking down on us it’s not the same without you
Love you
Roxanne
Deepest sympathy to you and everyone closest to Tammy. I been looking for you all for years till I came across this obituary. I loved you guys so much Tammy was a great friend back in the days I’m just sorry I couldn’t locate her before this. Please contact me. Would love to catch up on days past. Sincerely,Donna Schumacher, Deiter
585-490-5882 here’s my number Roxanne.
Merry Christmas.
I miss you so much.
You made every Christmas special as a kid. Between making Christmas cookies in the dining room, counting down the days with the advent calendar, and you busting your butt to get all of us exactly what we wanted.
Why’d you have to go?
I love you.
Promise me you’ll be the first person I see whenever I make it up there?
Happy Easter Grammy. I love you so much.
Missing you so much Gram
Happy Birthday Gram. I miss you every single day.
It’s 2024! Shitmas has come and passed , miss you always
it’s the day after your birthday. i know you would’ve walked to the beach and celebrate your day barefoot in the sun. i love you forever gram
today marks two years since you’ve made your way to heaven. i know now i truly have no concept of time..
i visited your home earlier this month. as i took the familiar turns in the neighborhood my heart was heavy. every corner, every sign, every shrub, and every tree were covered in memories of you. the sight of your house made my heart clench and eyes water as i furthered down the road.
as i grew closer to the house and saw that little tree you made a fuss about them planting after they ripped your big beautiful tree to the ground. i remember that big tree.. the porch windows open, you leaned back in a chair with your feet propped on the windowsill. you’d sit there for hours, looking past the big tree seeing who’s coming down the road, where the mailman was and waiting for lacey and i to get off the bus. i miss that big tree now too.
after all of those memories flashed in my mind i finally made it up the driveway. the front of the house is still covered in your hydrangeas, a flower now that only makes me think of you. they don’t bloom as beautifully without you. life isn’t as bright and colorful as i remember it when you were here.
as i ascended those few front steps it felt like i could break them with how heavy i felt with the emotion of being at your door. i imagine that when i get to heaven you’ll open your front door for me like you did my whole life. and i can’t wait to see you again.
until then