Kathleen M. Trilikauskas

Kathleen M. Trilikauskas 

Kathleen M. (Hegney) Trilikauskas of Rochester, NY passed away at home on Friday January 17th, 2025 at the age of 70. Kathy is predeceased by her husband and the love of her life, Steven Trilikauskas, who passed away in 2017. Born in Highland Falls, NY, she was the daughter of Francis M. Hegney (d. 1966), Kathleen M. (Flannery Hegney) Foerster, and step-father Richard T. Foerster (d. 2011). She is survived by her mother, her sister Maureen Fidgeon (Pete d. 2011), brother Brian F. Hegney (Sharon), sister Eileen M. Murdock (Edward), and cousins, nieces, nephews, and friends. She is also predeceased by an older brother, Michael F. Hegney (d.1982). Kathy was a graduate of Sacred Heart School and Highland Falls High School. Kathy retired from Excellus BCBS in 2015, where she was a Senior Customer Service Advocate for 31 years. Kathy was an enthusiastic Buffalo Bills fan, (Go Bills!) a beloved and loyal friend, a fun-loving extrovert who was quick to smile and possessed a memorable and contagious laugh. The family would like to thank friends and caregivers Kathy Guerinot and Nathan Guerinot. Also thanks to Rochester Regional Hospital staff.

Services will be held by the family at a future date. 

To remember her, please consider sharing a favorite memory or story of Kathy on the guestbook. 

Death Is Nothing At All:

Poem By Henry Scott Holland

Death is nothing at all. 

I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am I and you are you.

Whatever we were to each other,

That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.

Speak to me in the easy way

Which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone.

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. 

Laugh as we always laughed

at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.

Let my name be the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without effect.

Without a trace of a shadow on it. 

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was.

There is absolutely unbroken continuity.

Why should I be out of your mind 

because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.

For an interval.

Somewhere. Very near.

Just around the corner.

All is well.

Nothing is past, nothing is lost. One brief moment 

and all will be as it was before only better, infinitely 

happier and forever we will all be one together with God.