Darrel B. Taylor


Rochester NY:  Expired at home surrounded by family on February 4, 2016, after a heroic battle with cancer.  A retiree of General Motors, Mr. Taylor served in the U.S. Air Force during the Vietnam War Era.

Survived by his wife of 44 years and best friend Susan. Children, Maria Koca (Ken), Amy Kelly (Don), Brian Taylor, Karen Taylor, Philip Taylor (Wynde). Grandchildren, Brandon Andrews, Alexis Taylor, Haley “Red” Moses, Grace Taylor, Lainey Taylor, Hayzee Chaney-Taylor, Temple Taylor. Sisters, Debra Mascara (Jim), Jody Purdy, Dianne Woodall (Al), Phyllis Coalts, Robin Pearson. Brothers, Roger Taylor (Kim), Norman Taylor, Donald Taylor. Long time friend Vaughn “Biff”Duell. Many aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins.  Predeceased by parents Barbara and Ward Taylor, sister Constance Bishop.

Special thanks to the staff at Athena Middle and the former Apollo Middle for their never-ending support and kindness during this difficult time, you are awesome. Thanks to Lifetime Care and Interlakes Cancer Center.

At his request there will be no service. A Celebration of Life is planned for later this year.

9 Condolences

  1. Tina neu on February 6, 2016 at 6:00 pm

    Sending my condolences to family and friends your gonna be missed so much uncle darrel but never forgotten

  2. Gayle and Chip Fleming on February 6, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    My dearest friend Sue,
    We are so very sorry for your loss. Darrel was a wonderful man with a heart of gold who had a great sense of humor. He fought with all of his well being to be there for his family. He was very giving and loving. You were a very courageous woman who fought with him by his side every step of the way. Your love as well as his was unconditional. He will be missed very much by all who came in contact with him. Rest assure that he is in peace looking down and laughing at us.

  3. Roger & Rebecca Velten on February 7, 2016 at 8:27 am

    To my loving sister and wonderful sister-in-law. We are so sorry for your loss, Darrel was a wonderful man,loving husband and an awesome father. He will be missed but I know he is at peace and no more pain. Prayers and sincere thoughts are with you at this time. We love you beyond words.

  4. Philip Taylor on February 7, 2016 at 10:09 am

    This poem seemed fitting. I will miss my father. I will miss my friend.

    “Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night”
    By Dylan Thomas

    Do not go gentle into that good night,
    Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

    Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
    Because their words had forked no lightning they
    Do not go gentle into that good night.

    Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
    Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

    Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
    And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
    Do not go gentle into that good night.

    Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
    Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

    And you, my father, there on the sad height,
    Curse, bless me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
    Do not go gentle into that good night.
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

  5. Todd Neu on February 7, 2016 at 5:49 pm

    RIP Uncle Darrel

  6. Sue Taylor on February 7, 2016 at 9:29 pm

    Oh how I miss you! You are forever in my heart and soul. Thank you for a life of happiness and love. Your suffering is over and you are at peace, I am at peace. Looking forward to your visits 😁. Carry on !

  7. Amy Kelly on February 8, 2016 at 8:15 am

    We had our differences. We had our disagreements. We never saw things the same. What we mostly shared in the past 15 yrs. was silence.
    I never stopped loving you dad. Some part of me kept hoping we could reconcile, but fate had other plans. Now you are gone and the little girl in me wishes that she could see her daddy one more time so that she could hug him and tell him how much she always loved him even though she disappointed him greatly. I love you dad and hope you are at peace.

  8. your son Brandon Andrews on February 8, 2016 at 10:17 pm

    I could write page after page on how much you meant to me. You weren’t only my grandfather you where also my friend, homie :), Role model, and my dad. You where there to teach me what to do, what not to do, how to be a man and not a child, every time you would talk about life with me I felt privileged and took it all in and it made me the strong young man that I am today.

    If I had to pick a spirit animal for you it would have to be a lion, I never seen anyone stronger in my life you had cancer but gave it a battle it will never forget, where others would give in you fought it and kept your sense of humor every step of the way like a true warrior.

    You will be missed beyond believe I will always cherish the moments we had like staying up all night playing games/watching movies, watching shows like Lawman, have gun will travel, Yankee baseball and the list goes on.

    But now there is no more suffering and you can now rest. I will always be your little man and I will always love and miss ya pop/granddad when it is my turn to leave this life I will come looking for ya 🙂

  9. Yasin on February 17, 2016 at 6:05 pm

    yes but at the end of the day he tells Jake’s mother that he coduln’t hardly get Jake to do anything with him. Jake’s mom ends up going to a psychiatrist to ask what might be wrong with her son. After telling the psychiatrists Jakes behavior, he tells her that Jake might have been abused growing up but whenever she gets home and asks Jake he tells her that he has to help Chelsea with something and then quickly leaves the room. A few days later Jake’s mom is talking to her friend in the kitchen bout Jake and says “its not like I don’t want Jake or anything”. but Jake passes by and only hears the “I don’t want Jake” part and burst out the front door. Jake’s mom hears him leave and she, her friend and Chelsea goes out to look for Jake. Jake returns home a few hours later and takes out a bottle of pills for depression that his doctor prescribed and washed them down with alcohol. Whenever Chelsea comes back home to see if Jake has returned she finds him in his bedroom where she feels that something is wrong, he finally collapses in front of her and she calls an ambulance and calls her mother shortly afterwards. At the hospital they learned that Jake attempted suicide by trying to overdose and found several other illegal drugs in his system. After the doctor leaves Chelsea admits to her mom that Jake told her a while back that he had been abused and had been secretly cutting himself to relieve the pain. Whenever Jake’s mother goes into his room he tells her everything that has happened to him whenever he stayed with his father and told her how his father said she never wanted him. He then pulls up his shirt and shows her where his father had stabbed him in the stomach whenever he was drunk and lost control of his balance whenever he was threatening Jake with a knife She tells Jake that she tried hard to get to be with him but his father wouldn’t let her and the police never would do anything about it and she coduln’t visit him because her ex husband had a restraining order agaagainst her. Jake the tells her about how much he always had wanted to be loved growing up and how it hurt him so much whenever he would see a mother showing affection to her child at school or on the playground and admitted that every time he seen her hug Chelsea he would always feel so lonely and wanted her to love him just as much but thought that she didn’t. He breaks down and cries and she climbs into his hospital bed and holds him in her arms and starts to sing him a lullaby as he cries himself to sleep. Chelsea comes in later on to find her mother holding her sleeping son, Chelsea smiles and tells her mom that she will be back first thing in the morning, leaving her mother there with Jake.The next morning Jake wakes up to find his mother still holding him as Chelsea is just walking through the door. Chelsea and her mom goes outside in the hallway where Chelsea’s mom gives her a credit card and asks Chelsea to clean out their “junk room” and start fixing it up to be Jake’s bedroom, she tells Chelsea that she is going to stay with Jake until they release him. Whenever Jake comes home from the hospital they take him to his new room where he has a new feather bed, furniture, a tv and dvd player, a computer, and even a new wardrobe. Whenever Chelsea walks over to him and asks if he likes it, to her surprise her turns around and hugs her then motions for his mother and does the same to her.He then sees a shoebox on his bed and sees all of the cards his mother has sent him whenever he was growing up that was still in their envelopes with the words marked “return to sender” on them. After Chelsea leaves the room Jake tells his mother that he is sorry for the way that he had treated her but she tells him that she understands and promises that he will always be loved. Jake begins to trust and build a life with his mother and sister and agrees to start going to group therapy meetings with people who has also suffered from child abuse and soon his personality changes rapidly and starts smiling and laughing more often and later on decides to go to college into the medical field , ready to build a new life and put his old life behind him.

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