Howard Wilson


Rochester NY:  Age 67, passed away peacefully at home in Rochester, NY on Thursday November 12th, 2015. Howard was born to parents Francis and Verna Wilson, in Perry, NY, on April 25, 1948. He was the second oldest of six children and lived an idealistic, rural life during his youth. He played baseball in the back yard, football for his local school, was a Boy Scout, an Eagle Scout, an avid sailor, and a fisherman. He helped in his parents’ restaurant and told us many times how he “peeled more than a million potatoes before he was 15”. He graduated from Perry High School and was quickly drafted into the U.S. Marines, during the Vietnam War, in 1968. Though he was terrified to go away from home for the first time in his life, questioned the war, and was not a fighter, he served with honor and great pride. Every day while stationed in Vietnam he received a letter from his grandma Vema and a weekly care package of baked goods from his mom; making him one of the best loved Marines in his platoon. Before Vietnam he was an occasional hunter, but refused to take part in the sport upon his return. After being honorably discharged from the Marines Corps, he began a career with the Chessie Railroad System for nearly 10 years. Later, he worked for multiple home improvement companies as a salesperson and eventually co-owned Wilco Construction. He ended his career as the Sales Manager for Quality Homes, where he matter-of-factly but humorously trained his sales staff.

Howard was an avid bowler and golfer, before his illness. He took great pride in his lawn; regaling his neighbors with his tenacious quest for a weed and mole free yard. He also always strove for a perfectly buffed driveway in the Winter months. He enjoyed cooking, which he was much better at than his wife. For the past 8 years, he was involved in a weekly Vietnam Veterans support group that helped him become a better husband, father, and friend. He loved vacationing any place warm, Sunday naps, football, boxing, and cutting the lawn at his son-in-law’s cottage. Howard was hard working, courageous, brave, and was a master of sarcasm. But most of all, he loved his family and friends.

Howard is survived by his wife Tammie (Hertz) Wilson. He married her more than 30 years ago and inherited her boisterous and entertaining family. They had a traditional marriage of ups and downs, love and anger, sadnesd and joy. But, in the last few years, they had finally found their way back to each other. He also leaves behind his twin daughters Corrine (Joe) and Jessica (Jimmy), whom he felt were his most amazing accomplishment. He wasn’t demonstrative with his praise, but shared with his friends his pride in each of them. He beamed with joy at his new grandson, Parker. His family mourns that he will not have the opportunity to watch his grandson grow.

Howard is predeceased by his brother David and sister Rhonda. He is survived by his brother Kent, sisters Relma (Steve) and Nancy, and their children and grandchildren. He also leaves behind Tammie’s sisters Laurie (Don), Penny (Pat), Chrissy (Peter), Kelly (Mike), brothers Chuckie (Pam), Carl (Mary), mother-in-law Wilma (Jerry), and their children. He will be greatly missed and remains so loved.

A Celebration of Life with Military Honors will be held Sunday, November 15th, 10 A.M. with gathering and continued viewing from 11 AM-1pm at Westminster Chapel located at 3886 Rush Mendon Road Mendon, NY 14506.

In lieu of flowers, please do something kind for someone else in remembrance of Howard.

Rochester Cremation, 4044 W. Henrietta Road, Rochester NY 14623, 359-2300,

8 Condolences

  1. Donna LeGault on November 13, 2015 at 12:19 pm

    Jessica and family. I am so sorry for the loss of your dad at such a young age. He sounded like a wonderful man!
    Donna LeGault

  2. Claire Kirchmaier on November 13, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    Jessica and Family,

    I am so very sorry for your loss. I just finished reading his obituary, and he sounds like a wonderful man! I imagine he will be missed by all of you. Please accept my heartfelt condolences at this difficult time.

    Claire Kirchmaier & Family

  3. Angela /Gaufitz Annakie on November 14, 2015 at 9:38 am

    I was privelegde to know your father for a short while soft spoken and funny.My family and I sends condolences

  4. Bob & Debbie Scherzi on November 14, 2015 at 11:38 am


    So sorry to hear about Howards passing – may God Bless him along with you and the family.

  5. Mike Blanc on November 14, 2015 at 2:48 pm

    We will certainly miss your sense of humor dear cousin. Say hi to Dad for me when you see him up there. I’m sure he will buy the first round. Semper FI

    Mike Blanc

  6. Don & Kathy Sopko on November 14, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    Tammie, Corrine and Jessie,
    We are so sorry to hear of Howard’s death. He was a great guy and so nice to talk to. It was fun spending time together on the sidelines of many soccer games. We pray for him and for all of you. Tammie, if you need anything, please call us. Our love to all. Kathy & Don

  7. Al on November 15, 2015 at 8:29 am

    For your consideration: The thoughts and words that I will attempt to share will neither do justice to, nor manifest, the strength and character of my friend Howard.

    Howard was an amazing human being. I’ve been blessed to know him for more than half of my life.

    Howard was not shy about teaching and giving some outstanding advice. I fondly remember Howard greeting me after I returned from Parris Island- he was an outstanding Marine and an ambassador for the Corps. It was a great day.

    Howard taught me about some of his horrific experiences in Vietnam, experiences which led to intense PTSD. Despite the struggles with this, which greatly affected Howard and eventually those that he loved, he did learn to cope with it and showed remarkable resolve by using this challenge to strengthen his character.

    Howard’s health challenges, and subsequent recoveries, over the past few years reminded me of the tests from the Book of Job. Throughout these trying times, Howard was been blessed with Tammie’s love, compassion and amazing support. As this final challenge presented itself to Howard, he told me about how absolutely unbelievable Tammie was and her relentless search for treatments.

    This one caught me by surprise. I was fully expecting to see Howard ripping down the street in his roadster, hurrying to save a deal for one of his salesman.

    The Marine Corps celebrated it’s 240th Birthday on the 10th of November. Veterans’ Day was on the 11th. I suppose that on the 12th, The Lord needed an outstanding Marine to take his fire watch and guard Heaven’s streets.

    Semper Fi & much love, Sir.

  8. Frank Colquitt on November 16, 2015 at 1:15 am

    To the Family of Mr. Wilson: I read of the loss of your dear loved one, and I would like to extend my condolences. My heart goes out to all of you, because losing a loved one is the most difficult thing we will ever have to experience in life. May your many precious memories and the peace of God, bring a measure of comfort to your grieving hearts through this very difficult time (2 Corinthians 1:3-5; Philippians 4:6,7,13). Please accept my sincere condolences.

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