Joseph Simon Hancock

Joseph Simon Hancock

Rochester NY:  Passed away recently at his home in Rochester, NY at age 51. He was born and raised in Sarasota, FL, and graduated from Riverview High School and the University of Maryland. He is pre-deceased by his parents, Judson Norris Hancock, Jr. and Gertrude Ann Hancock Virden, and his grandparents, Jennie and Dowie Cutshall and Harold Dickson.

He is survived by his husband of 12 years, Anthony Vallone, his sister Robin Hancock Mabrey, his brothers David and Bill Hancock, and his grandmother ‘Granny’ Jonnye Dickson. He also leaves his nieces and nephews Richard, Judson, Heather, Audrey, Malachi, Malik, Armando and Lilyana, as well as many aunts, uncles and cousins. He will be greatly missed by his Vallone family in-laws and relatives, including Michael, Mary, Russ Jr, and their parents, Charlene and Russell Sr.

Simon also leaves behind countless friends and co-workers whose lives he has enriched through his talent, humor, generosity and lust for life. He was a successful software engineer, performer, comedian and artist who was dedicated to numerous philanthropic causes, including the Van Wezel Foundation, Nourishing New York, Sarasota Christian School. One of Simon’s great passions was his participation with the Chiller Theatre Convention, where he will be sorely missed.

Memorial services in celebration of Simon’s life will be held at Simon and Anthony’s home on Tuesday 8/30 from 7-9pm, and in Sarasota, FL and Parsippany, NJ at a later date.

31 Condolences

  1. David Locke on August 29, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    All my love and strength to you at this sad time Anthony.
    Love never dies.

  2. Buffy Hodgetts on August 29, 2016 at 3:56 pm

    Dearest Anthony,

    I am shocked and deeply saddened upon hearing this news. I know you will be held closely by friends, and know that I am one of them. Wrapping you with prayers and love.

  3. Mario Della Casa on August 29, 2016 at 4:28 pm

    They say in Italy, “As Long As You Speak My Name…. I LIVE”, I promise you Anthony that your name will be on upon my lips for ever and also on the lips of everyone you ever met. I don’t like saying you will be missed. I rather say You will Forever be LOVED, because this I know for sure! I thank you Simon for being my friend. You truly are special and wonderful.

  4. Patty Paddy on August 29, 2016 at 5:19 pm

    My condolences Anthony. Simon will be forever in your heart. I wish that I had the opportunity to meet Simon, but I will know him through you. I hope you know how special you are. Love and hugs to you and to Michael as well.

  5. Erin Moriarty on August 29, 2016 at 5:37 pm

    Anthony, I will never forget the wonderful friendship I had with Simon and you, of course, are just as awesome. I appreciate the both of you looking out for me and caring for me. Whenever I would have a conversation with Simon (even on the day I first met you two), he would always make me laugh and I would always have a lot to talk about with him. You were a very lucky man to have him in your life and now you are still lucky now to have him watch over you from above. It has been tough to know that Simon is gone from the earth now, but his spirit will remain in our hearts. Don’t think of this as a “goodbye.” Think of it as an “I’ll see you up in heaven when my time comes.”
    Simon seemed to always love you and his spirit is making sure you are never alone, because his memory will always be there with you and you still have me, Dusty, Gregor, and everyone else to give you love also. <3

  6. Mark Augustin on August 29, 2016 at 6:42 pm

    I didn’t know Simon long or have an opportunity to really talk to him deeply except once. But that’s all it takes to get to understand a guy like Simon. He had and I’m sure still has a beautiful soul. My sincerest condolences go out to you and Anthony. I’m sure we’ll see each other gain. But I might be a pug by then! God bless you both from the bottom of my heart!!! MARK

  7. Suzy Adams on August 29, 2016 at 7:24 pm

    Till we meet again. RIP sweet Simon. Hugs and Prayers to you Anthony and to all that knew and loved Simon.

  8. Grace Carlson on August 29, 2016 at 8:15 pm


    I am so shocked and saddened to learn of your loss. I never got the chance to meet Simon, but felt like I knew him from all the fun conversations we shared about the love between you. I am here and thinking of you. Let me know when/if you’d be up for a visit to see me in Seattle. I can promise beautiful, restful scenery, long walks and plentiful hugs!! xoxo

  9. Suzanne Keyworth on August 29, 2016 at 8:23 pm

    My heart is deeply saddened by your loss, Anthony. Our beloved Simon/Joe will always be with you until you meet again. Never doubt that this is true. We all loved him dearly and will pray for you in the months ahead. We love you Anthony and will be here for you should you need anything – do not hesitate to let us know. Thank you, Robin, for your generous heart and do take good care of Anthony for all of us as we will be here for you. Rest in peace, Joe, you will be missed. Anthony may God grant you his tender mercies. Love, Suzanne

  10. Joseph D'Ang6 on August 29, 2016 at 9:18 pm

    To Anthony and The Hancock Family,
    I’m still so very shocked at the loss of my friend Simon. I will miss him dearly as will the rest of our Chiller theater family. He was one of a kind. always made me smile whenever I saw him and I will miss sharing a glass of red with him like we did at every Chiller Theatre party. My heart is with you all and I hope our paths will cross again someday. May peace and love be with you all.
    Joe “Bat-man” D’Angeli

  11. Stephanie Kwiatkowski on August 29, 2016 at 9:29 pm

    I’m so deeply sorry for your loss of such a beautiful person.

  12. Eric Hufford on August 29, 2016 at 9:48 pm


    You and I never had the chance to meet but I wanted you to know that Simon was a wonderful colleague and became a true friend in the process. I wish you much peace at this difficult time and pray that you’ll feel Simon’s arms around you forever.

    Eric Hufford

  13. Scott & Jodi McIntyre on August 29, 2016 at 9:50 pm

    All my sympathy Anthony, Michael and family. We can’t truly console you during this horrible loss, just know that so many people are here for you.

    Simon…we will miss you, dear friend, and will always cherish the memories and laughter. Chiller cons will never be the same, as you were always one of the reasons to go. You touched so many lives, a spirit like yours will never be forgotten.

  14. Diane Farris on August 29, 2016 at 9:58 pm

    Simon was loved by scores and scores of people, Anthony. I hope that you can feel the love from all of us at this time. He showed us all what really LIVING life was about! He gave more and cared more than many people combined, and for that he will never be forgotten. Hugs and warm thoughts to you at this time! xo

  15. Zanne Smeaton on August 30, 2016 at 7:41 am

    Dearest Anthony,
    My heart aches for you as you navigate this unimaginable loss. I am sending love and strength your way, happy to know you are surrounded by loving family and friends. I hope you’ll take some comfort in knowing that Simon will live forever in your heart. Big hugs. Zanne

  16. Darcy Jahn on August 30, 2016 at 9:52 am

    “Though every day here is a gift, we are not home yet. Heaven is our real home. I long for a glimpse of Heaven.”
    We miss you so much. You are home. We will be together again.
    xoxoxo miss you Vap.

  17. Robin Focht on August 30, 2016 at 11:51 am

    My deepest sympathy for all of Sumon’s loved ones.

  18. C. Darryl Mullen on August 30, 2016 at 7:55 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss… I knew Simon as a lovely and humorous man with an incredibly beautiful soul. He was loved by everyone he met… and he was such a gift to all who knew him.. it’s hard to imagine Chiller without him… May the lord grant you peace and comfort at this time…

  19. Audrey Landers on August 30, 2016 at 9:29 pm

    My deepest condolences. My heart and prayers are with you and your loved ones.

  20. Taraleean aka sister on August 31, 2016 at 10:15 am

    My baby favo

    Joe Simon Hancock was my life and favorite brother. He brought me joy and love the minute I saw him. We never fought, never called each other names and if we had a disagreement it was fine. I will always have a part of him with me forever. He’s happy as he is with our parents and grandparents and others that he loved and is now with them. He’s home. I love you little brother and I will see you again. I will always be here for Anthony and we will never forget you. Go play little brother of mine.

    Your sis
    Hugs and kisses
    Love you
    Robin aka Taraleean Hancock

  21. Ruthie Davis Schlabach on August 31, 2016 at 11:35 pm

    I am so sorry to hear about “Joey’s” passing. We went to SCS together and he was very kind to me. My condolences to Simon’s husband Anthony and his brothers, sister and the Whole family. RIP

  22. Donston Frank on September 16, 2016 at 4:58 pm

    May Simon’s soul rest in peace.

  23. Dedee Benrey on September 23, 2016 at 1:47 pm

    I met Simon, when I appeared as a guest at Chiller Theatre. We became INSTANT email/phone pals. During times of joy or sadness, his message was uplifting; when we shared stories of those we lost, we each felt they were now guiding us from above. Dear Simon, I’ll surely miss your warm birthday wishes this fall. But i hope that maybe… just maybe… you are now a guiding angel, a guiding Light. I wish only comfort and blessings to Anthony; Simon’s family; + his family of friends who mourn.

    In each correspondence, Simon quoted Maya Angelou:
    “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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  30. Rose O'Malley-Barnes on September 15, 2019 at 5:31 pm

    After all these years I finally found you again. My heart is truly broken and I cry in pain. To the boy I met in the late 70’s when my family would drive from Postage, IN to visit my grand parents in Sarasota. We would always meet at Sunshine Skateway where you would bring me happiness,joy and a love for life everyday. From my high school graduation in 1983 through college at indiana University, you were always supportive and optimistic for my future, even when I wasn’t so sure. I’m glad to hear you became such a wonderful man, as I so hoped you would be. I truly miss you but I know I will one day see you again. My heart us truly broken.

    Rose O’Malley-Barnes

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