Maria Turco-McArdle

Maria Jane Turco McArdle - Penfield, NY - Rochester Cremation

In Loving Memory of Maria Turco-McArdle

Maria Jane Turco-McArdle passed away at age 29 on March 13th, 2021, after a long courageous and brave fight against cancer.

Maria is predeceased by her loving grandparents, Edward Turco and Anita Weiland (Michael’s parents) and Henry and Jane Willams (Cheryl’s parents); also by sister, Emily Turco.

Maria is survived by her husband Paul McArdle; parents, Michael and Cheryl Turco; siblings, Jennifer Ruffell, Ryan Turco (Catherine Turco), Charlene Johnson-Hennig (Tommy Gaffney), and Nicholas Turco; nieces, Emily Ruffell and Hayleigh Gaffney; nephews, Benjamin Ruffell, Jaden Hennig, Noah Turco and Henry Turco; Along with many dear Aunts, Uncles, Cousins and close friends.

Maria was beautiful inside and out, a genuine, kind, loving soul. Despite her short time on Earth, she left a huge mark. Maria dedicated her time giving to others, spreading love and joy in whatever she was doing. She was unrelentlessly herself in everything she did and everything she believed in. She never compromised what she stood for to pacify others. Maria helped give others a voice when they were unable to do so for themselves. Maria was “all in” when she loved and she gave it so freely, without fear of getting hurt or with the expectation of getting anything in return.

Family and friends were extremely important, if not the most important thing to Maria. Maria cherished all of her roles, she was a daughter, a girlfriend, in her final days a wife, an aunt, a sister, a niece, a cousin and a friend to so many.  She took her role as a “doxie mom” very seriously and thought of her little dog Rosie as her baby. That daschund was probably one of the most spoiled dogs around. Maria’s love for her husband Paul, their love for each other, is something that only a few get to experience, truly a love of a lifetime. Her connection with her younger brother Nick was nothing short of incredible, the two of them were as thick as thieves and had an unspoken language most would never be able to understand. Maria was known as Aunt Mimi to all her nieces and nephews. She had a magical way of connecting with all of them and creating a special bond, each and every one of them felt her love. To Maria, her friends were her family and her heart had room for everyone.

Maria graduated from Penfield high school in 2009 and then Nazareth college in 2013 with her degree in social work. Despite her aggressive treatment schedule over the last year, Maria recently completed her masters degree from the University of New Hampshire. Maria was determined to finish her studies and become a MSW. Her dream was to work with the youth in a private practice setting.

Maria put in countless hours connecting with young people, it truly was her passion. Over the years Maria found many ways to work with children;  whether it was her drum circles, teenage girl support groups, internships working with children of refugee status, participating in or leading many programs that supported  kids with different abilities, or empowering young girls to find their inner princess. Maria always just knew the right way to connect with people and what they needed to feel special and included.

In recent years Maria found great joy in being part of the Cobblestone Players, her love for the theater blossomed and acting became very important to her and part of her identity. Regardless if she was behind the stage helping with the production or performing front and center, Maria loved every minute of it.

Music was a huge part of Maria’s life. Her tastes were eclectic, ranging  from Aerosmith, to Ella Fitzgerald and Carrie Underwood. Maria loved to feel and experience music, whether it was listening, singing or dancing. Some of her favorite time was spent with her grandmother Jane listening to and discussing jazz. Even in her final days, when asked what words she wanted to leave for her younger brother Nick, she decided to make up a song. For as sick as she was, she found the strength to sing and dance from her bed. One of her greatest joys with music was sharing it with her husband Paul, it created many memorable moments for them.

Maria had a zest for life that could not be broken. She left quite a legacy for as young as she was, along with many valuable lessons for all the lives she touched. At the end of Maria’s journey here on Earth, her final thoughts were not ones of selfishness or anger, as someone in her position so rightfully may have, but rather it was thoughts for others. Concerned how her family would cope and for their sadness. Even in the darkest of moments she created love and light and that is how she will always be remembered.

Special thanks to the outpouring of love and support from family and friends, it has been truly amazing and comforting in such a difficult time.

The family would like to thank the Wilmot Cancer Center for their care of Maria over the last 14 months. Dr. Victor, Dr. Constine and nurse Jeff, along with the rest of the team were absolutely incredible and really went above and beyond. They treated Maria as if she were their family member. Also many thanks to Dr. Diamond and the entire palliative care team at URMC. Their kindness and compassion allowed Maria to be comfortable and move on to Heaven with dignity and peace.

The family will lay Maria to rest with a private internment service March 24th. There will be a Celebration of Maria’s Life held on April 30th, this would have been her 30th birthday. Family will provide details at a later date. Due to capacity restrictions, space is limited for in-person attendance. There will be a live streaming of the event so people can attend virtually. The family is appreciative of everyone’s understanding in needing to be creative in accommodating the large number of people, who have so kindly expressed interest in attending any services.

In lieu of flowers please consider making a donation to Cobblestone Arts Center in Maria’s name. This place was very near and dear to Maria and to the entire Turco family. Donations can be sent directly to the center at 1622 NY-332, Farmington, NY 14425 or online at www.cobblestoneartscenter.com. Please indicate the donation is in memory of Maria.

“No matter what LOVE looks like, it comes in all shapes and sizes, it doesn’t matter who it’s with, everyone deserves it.” – Maria (3/10/2021)

6 Condolences

  1. Paula Pellegrino on March 18, 2021 at 5:59 pm

    I miss you already and love you madly my sweet & gorgeous niece. I am very proud to be your Auntie and also very proud of all that you’ve accomplished. Of course I’m speaking of your success in the educational arena, but most importantly of your success in what is most important. Caring about & caring for people was where you really shined our empathetic & loving girl. Now it’s time for you to fly high & wide Maria, and when you get a chance, keep your eye on Yani & Grandpa🌈💥🧳🌼🧸😘💋🙏🌞💫🌟

  2. Sue Mangefrida Beck on March 18, 2021 at 6:38 pm

    The FHS Class of ’77 wishes to send its deepest condolences to our classmate, Mike, and all the Turco family on Maria’s passing. We are so very sorry for your loss.

  3. Julie Callaghan on March 18, 2021 at 7:10 pm

    As a friend of Jenny’s I am deeply sorry for the loss of your beautiful sister it is such a hard thing to lose someone so wonderful and a sister at that. I pray someday the memories will make you smile and the pain will lessen Fly High sweet Maria♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  4. Richard & Michelle Zielinski on March 18, 2021 at 7:32 pm

    Gone from you sight, but never from your hearts, a thought of comfort and condolences to your family.

  5. Chris, Dave and Evan Ollier on March 18, 2021 at 11:27 pm

    Mike, Cheri, and family,
    We were saddened and heart-broken to learn of Maria’s passing. She did fight a hard battle with cancer. She was so inspiring, her attitude, confidence, her spunky sassiness. We loved following her journey and reading her post. Maria was encouraging and heartfelt with her messages/emojis. We will always remember her kindness with Evan at the Akron Soap Box Derby for special needs individuals, and meeting your family. We are so grateful for the years we had together at this yearly event, until both of our sons aged out. You have our love and prayers. We will remember Maria’s fight and determination, and the love she wants each of us to spread. May we all learn from her journey and come to be more compassionate for others. Our Lord has gained a very special person. RIP Maria Turco-McArdle

  6. Adrienne Suter on March 24, 2021 at 5:50 pm

    I was blessed to share many classes with Maria throughout high school, and by senior year we chose to sit next to each other and be partners in Music Theory class. I cannot believe someone so kind has passed away so young. My thoughts and prayers and love are with her husband and family. Rest in peace, Maria. I hope we see each other again some day.

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