Phyllis Denise McCray-McClary

Phyllis Denise McCray-McClary - Rochester, NY - Rochester Cremation
Rochester, NY: Passed away surrounded by family on March 16, 2020 at the age of 64.
Survived by her Children Anthony McCray-Baldwin (Tracy), Nakia McCray, and Barbara Ann Johnson.
Siblings: John McCray (Judy), Tampa, FL, Jack McCray, Clearwater, FL, Linda McCray and Sonia, Rochester, NY.  Pre-deceased by Gregory McCray.
Grandchildren: Kaesean Hall, Astrid Coffee, Nyeisha Watkins, Marvin Coffee Jr., Breona Borman-McCray and Monique Bosewell.
Special friend Tammy Bostick
Special special Aunt Mae Gibson and a host of uncles, aunts, nephews, nieces, cousins, and friends near and far.
She loved you All!
Celebration of life memorial arrangements are pending.

50 Condolences

  1. Judi Richardson on March 21, 2020 at 11:18 am

    We love you and miss you terribly.
    Your brother John and sister in law Judi

    • Cheryl Woodberry on March 26, 2020 at 12:43 pm

      To The McCray Family

      My prayers are with you through this difficult time. While living in Rochester prior to my moving to Florida, I enjoyed the time getting to know Phyllis. She was a lady with wise advice and her and Nan always treated me like a family member whenever I attended most of your family events with my best sister friend Sonia G!! Phyllis will be missed and I pray you cherish all the good memories she has left each of you with.

      My deepest sympathies to each family member. You are all in my thoughts as you grieve the loss. All my love

      Cheryl in Lake Mary FL formerly from Colgate Street in Rochester

    • Verta Oldfield on March 30, 2020 at 6:43 pm

      My Dearest friend Phyllis you will be missed deeply Gone too soon my freind my guess you not alone l know God got you Barbara, Helen And Char/ Lean , know how you are rolling out the red carpet so you can Enter The Gates Heaven 🙏🏿 to the Family stay close & Know God loves you so do l much love God Bless 🙏🏽🙏🏿🙏🏽

    • Janice Stmarthe'Farquharson on April 5, 2020 at 8:44 am

      Ms. Phillis one of the lady I’ll never forget, you’ll are a very classy lady beautiful in an out , I love how you were an enjoyable to be around. .. my condolences to the family your sister mother, and grandmother was a beautiful person to be around.

  2. Linda McCray on March 25, 2020 at 8:44 pm

    Phyllis my one and only baby sister
    I am the oldest sister but you were always the grownest(LOL) and it worked for us
    I miss you already
    you were the best travel buddy ever and I WILL MISS THAT
    LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER
    YOUR ONLY SISTER
    LYNN

  3. Sonia Gerald-Holland on March 25, 2020 at 9:02 pm

    Phyllis(Phoo) the nickname I had for you
    You always had a nickname for someone mine being Sue.Baby
    Your sister Linda Ann(Lynn) and Helen (Irene) LOL
    I will miss your presence in my life
    I promise to allow the precious memories of you my loved one to bring a smile to my heart
    LOVE YOU ALWAYS AND FOREVER
    YOUR LIL SISTER-COUSIN
    SUE-BABY(SONIA)

    • Mae Royce Smith-Gibson on March 26, 2020 at 2:31 pm

      To my niece Dee-Wee
      I am going to miss you from PRAYING and PARTYING full of LOVE and LAUGHTER
      Love you
      Your Godmother and Aunt
      Mae Royce Smith-Gibson

  4. Nakia McCray on March 25, 2020 at 9:21 pm

    Mom missing u so much 😭 I can’t call u n talkn to u like I would like to it’s just not the same without but but I know u r in s better place just know u r missed

    • John Mc Cray on March 26, 2020 at 1:43 pm

      Jelly……… You were my baby sister and I love you so much. Life just wont be the same without you
      Just glad you are not in pain anymore.

      Your big brother
      John. Mullet

  5. Renee Tanksley-Pittss on March 26, 2020 at 1:54 pm

    To the McCray-McClary Family
    Phyllis was my buddy and I will truly miss her
    My prayers are with your family
    Renee Tanksley-Pitts

  6. Jack Mc Cray on March 26, 2020 at 2:05 pm

    Dee Wee. My little sister. My heart is broken over losing you. Rest in peace.

    Your brother

    Jack. Bird

  7. Regina Smith-Holmes on March 26, 2020 at 2:42 pm

    Rest in heaven
    One of the most precious people to me. You will always be one of my big sisters
    I love you and you will be truly missed in my life
    Your cousin (Jenna)
    Regina Smith-Holmes

  8. Tammy Radcliff-Bostick on March 26, 2020 at 5:29 pm

    Phil-Phil what can I say that wasn’t already said 😔 You will be my forever bestfriend, my Big Sis ( even though as we have often argued, not by too many years😊) I will truly miss calling you for every little thing, mainly commercial time outs during the Have And The Have Nots😢 I miss you more than I ever imagined. The only thing that brings me peace is knowing that you are no longer in pain. Continue to shine Diva❤️❤️❤️

  9. Tracey Mccray on March 26, 2020 at 5:51 pm

    To. My mother in law ….there was so many things that I didn’t understand. I’ve been watching you trying to carry out God’s plan.Its never been easy at all for you. But as my mother in law for year’s I’ve watched you fight through drama. I’ve watched you struggle to try and make things right. For your family with me Anthony and Nakia and who ever else need you to to just say hush it will be okay……And what I’m gonna miss about you the most is ….when you say hush stop crying (lol)..but threw it all I wouldn’t trade you for any other mother in law you gave me so much and you took so less…Mrs lady you will be forever missed in my heart…your the best

  10. Liz McGee on March 26, 2020 at 6:27 pm

    Acts 24:15
    There will be a resurrection
    Where?
    Psalm 37:29 on Earth
    Condition
    Revelation 21:3&4
    Perfect health, no death
    I pray we will be all be there to see Phyllis again. My family and I send condolences to you and your family.
    Liz McGee(Mickey’s mom& Sonia mother-in-law)

  11. Cathy McDuffy on March 27, 2020 at 11:23 am

    To my sister all the way back to Largo FL to R itochester NY
    I love you
    I am going to miss you and I love you with all my 💓
    I wish you were still here but I know you are in a better place with peace with no pain
    Love you always
    Cathy McDuffy

  12. Cathy McDuffy on March 27, 2020 at 11:25 am

    My sister from Largo FL to Rochester NY LOVE you and miss you

  13. Wanda Mobley on March 28, 2020 at 10:37 am

    To Phyllis,

    You will be truly missed you were my mom’s best friend (Sherrann Whiting BKA Penny) for over 30yrs or more, She loved you like a sister and we loved you just the same. I loved when I came home to visit from Orlando, Fl. we would get together and go listen to live bands and just chill. You enjoyed life and loved to shop and dress up and have fun. RIP in peace Beautiful.

    To the Family, Stay strong during this difficult time and always remember the good times, when you seem to miss her.

    God Bless Prayers going up for the entire family.

    Wanda Mobley, Orando, FL

  14. Jauvant Tanksley on March 28, 2020 at 5:39 pm

    I am deeply hurt and saddened upon your passing but
    extremely grateful to have you as a family member and apart
    of my development into the man I’ve become
    You had a smile that light up the room and style that was better than any supermodel.
    You are LOVED IMMENSELY and words can not explain the greatness you brought as
    a mother, daughter, sister. aunt. grandmother. and cousin
    Thank you for being mines and I LOVE YOU
    Boo(Jauvant)

  15. Christopher Smith on March 28, 2020 at 8:29 pm

    One of favorite older cousin
    Who loved to call me by my government name Christopher
    While everyone else called me Chris and loved cooking especially her fried turkey butts
    I will miss you very much
    Much Love for you
    Christopher aka Chris

    • Christopher Smith on March 28, 2020 at 8:33 pm

      Remember the tee shirt you brought me
      Here comes trouble (lol)
      I loved your cooking especially those fired turkey butts
      Love you
      Christopher

  16. Anita Lenear on March 29, 2020 at 11:24 am

    You will truly be missed but never forgotten. I will miss you calling my name every five minutes when we got together…LOL! R.I.H. Beautiful Lady!!! My sincerest condolences and prayers go out to the family in your time of need.

    Love Always
    Nita

    • Wanda Smith on March 29, 2020 at 12:49 pm

      Phwee(Phyllis)
      I’m going to miss you
      I love you
      Your favorite cousin
      Wanda Faye (yes, you called me by my full name all the time)

  17. Jonathan Lenear on March 29, 2020 at 11:26 am

    R.I.P to a wonderful lady!!! May the memories of your smile and laughter console your children, and siblings during this time of sorrow. Condolences to the family and friends.

    • Wyman Smith on March 29, 2020 at 12:55 pm

      Phyllis my cuz
      I Love you xoxoxo
      I’m going to miss you tremendously
      Much Love
      Me-me

  18. Kajauna McCray on March 29, 2020 at 12:09 pm

    My sweet Aunt Phyllis, you are loved and missed. I am so very grateful for getting the chance to meet you, you’re forever in my heart.
    Love you, until we meet again.

  19. Ms Shirley on March 29, 2020 at 12:49 pm

    I’m going to miss how we used to talk smart each other but that was the way that we show our love. We go way back with Pastor Annie Mae Davis I live over with you and your husband used to live the house every time I pass by I look over there and remember the fun times we had in that house miss you

  20. Wyman Smith on March 29, 2020 at 12:53 pm

    Phyllis my cuz
    I Love you xoxoxo
    I’m going to miss you tremendously
    Much Love
    Me-me

    • Darriyea Mccray on April 7, 2020 at 3:26 pm

      My favorite great-auntie Phyllis is gone I missing you dearly I wish we could’ve spent more time together. I love you sooo much🥰. You’ll never be forgotten. I’ll always have you down in my heart ❤️. When I heard the news I balled my eyes out until I had a head ache it was the worst ,most painful and most unbelievable day in my life.I couldn’t believe what I heard my mom stayed strong 💪 about it I know if Auntie Phyllis was here she would’ve told us to not cry but I couldn’t help but cry. Till this day I would think of her and start crying but trying to stay strong for her she was goofy she cooked the best breakfast for us (yummy 😋) on the 4th of July it was very fun at her house I love ❤️ you 😘 auntie. Love ❤️ your favorite niece, Darriyea

  21. JD Gerald on March 29, 2020 at 1:14 pm

    Phyllis my cuz
    Remembering the days we all hung out together as little kids in Florida. We were all close as family members. Noboby messed with the Ira Jr or Georgia Mae kids(Ease &grand daddy grands)
    Cause if they did they had to answer to The McCrays’
    You had our back back then and had my back when you can here
    We always had a bond cuz and I will always be grateful for that
    I’m going to truly miss you at all family functions and taking pictures with you all the time
    LOVE YOU CUZ ❤️
    One of your favorite
    JD

  22. Ty Baldwin Wright on March 29, 2020 at 3:06 pm

    Mrs. Phyllis,
    I send my sincere condolences to your family in this season. I pray for their strength and understanding. Rest in paradise…
    Love,

    Ty Baldwin Wright

    • Gloria Henderson on March 29, 2020 at 5:46 pm

      Such a wonderful lady with a great personality Ms Phyllis will truly be miss. RIP
      Diane and Doreen Henderson

  23. Selina Perry on March 30, 2020 at 7:27 am

    My condolences goes out to the family. May god be with you in this time of sorrow phyllis you will always be remembered much luv to you all.

  24. Roxanne Ross on March 31, 2020 at 6:51 pm

    My sincere and deepest condolences to the family. Phyllis I will definitely miss you.. Phyllis was a joy to be around and all gatherings. From the day I met you on Hawley Street you were always kind to me. Alway has a warm and inviting spirit.
    May God rest your soul!
    Roxanne Ross

  25. Lisa Giles on April 1, 2020 at 6:40 pm

    To my aunt Phyllis you were a classy lady I will miss your smile and your way of expressing yourself. You were a sharp dresser always on point I learned a lot from you growing up on how to carry yourself like a lady at all times and look your best. You will be truly missed I love you RIP ❤️❤️

    • Tanksley Family on April 1, 2020 at 11:20 pm

      To the McCray family
      Phyllis was a classy lady who got your attention when she entered the room, with her warm smile and style of dressing (like Dorthy Dandrige) we will truly miss her presence at functions that our families attended together.
      Our family sends prayers of strength, peace, unity and love during this time and forever to your family
      Love Velma and family

  26. Vanessa Henderson on April 3, 2020 at 9:05 am

    Phyllis, my dear friend will truly be miss, she was like a big sister always showing love and keeping me in line.
    Family continue to stay together and love each other this is what she would want. love you all.

  27. Cena Desir on April 3, 2020 at 10:01 am

    Phyllis who I always called my sister
    I am going to miss your cooking and going dancing with you.
    Phyllis was nice lady to me
    I’m so heart broken 💔, I love you and truly going to miss you.
    Family stay strong
    God Bless
    Cena from Winter Haven, FL

  28. GJ Grady on April 4, 2020 at 2:55 pm

    Phil was my friend from back in the day she was always a DIVA we partied harder than we should have at Joe’s Cabin. I even fixed her up with the ugliest man I knew I told her he was ugly before she met him but I guess she had to see for herself. When ever I came in town she always cooked a meal for me holidays were the best. I’ll miss her smile and the way she had of letting everyone know she was there when she walked in a room. I love you Phil take your rest as we remember the good you’ll live on in our hearts.

  29. Nyeisha Watkins on April 5, 2020 at 11:17 am

    you’re chocolate drop Is here 😘 I’m terribly missing you I can’t call you nomore man I wish I can you always knew what to say you always have advice and when I needed help you was always there for me and called me everyday me going to work and not able to hear “ have a good day at work chocolate drop “ ❤️😩 but the most thing I’m able to understand is that your no longer in pain you’re no longer suffering no longer fighting you put up a good fight and I watched you through the process I’m missing you dearly I listen to my voice messages all the time and look at our picture I love you so much I’m not letting nobody else call me chocolate drop you gave me that name and I’ll live with it for ever until we meet again 😩😍😢

  30. Jazzmin powell and Heaven Williams on April 5, 2020 at 11:30 am

    Hope you living it up up there My Diva I love you and miss you much . I’m definitely taken all the memory’s and kind words and words of wisdom that you shared with me and ima cherish them and follow them always . I’m glad my baby girl got to meet you When I told you her name you smiled so hard and that last hug you gave me I felt it through my whole body 😢 I wish we had more time with you but god called you home he saw you in pain and I’m glad u not in pain no more but ima miss you . I remember last year you told me that I was going to have my baby and now look a year later I had her you definitely had that special gift and I appreciate you so much keep watching over me up there and dance it up and get pretty my Diva love you from me and my baby girl 😘

  31. Darriyea Mccray on April 7, 2020 at 3:10 pm

    My favorite great-auntie Phyllis is gone I missing you dearly I wish we could’ve spent more time together. I love you sooo much🥰. You’ll never be forgotten. I’ll always have you down in my heart ❤️. When I heard the news I balled my eyes out until I had a head ache it was the worst ,most painful and most unbelievable day in my I couldn’t believe what I heard my mom stayed strong 💪 about it I know if Auntie Phyllis was here she would’ve told us to not cry but I couldn’t help but cry. Till this day I would think of her and start crying but trying to stay strong for her she was goofy she cooked the best breakfast for us (yummy 😋) on the 4th of July it was very fun at her house I love ❤️ you 😘 auntie. Love ❤️ your favorite niece, Darriyea

  32. Patricia Smith on April 11, 2020 at 9:34 pm

    ” From The Smith Family” In Tarpon Spring Florida We Will Miss You Love You” Phyl”😘 Patricia, Big Shawn, Lil Shawn, Sandra, AL, Larry, Tony Family.💋😅💗

  33. Dorothy Andrews on April 12, 2020 at 2:58 pm

    To the family of Phyllis,
    My Condolences to the family on your loss. I’d only met Phyllis once and found her to be a beautiful person . I met her and Linda a couple of years ago and when we parted I felt I had two new friends. Linda God Bless you and I know your faith will get you through this. I’m here for you, just a phone call away.

    Love to you and your family

    Dorothy Andrews

  34. James Hudson on April 13, 2020 at 11:11 am

    In loving memory ❤️ of my cousin n law
    God Bless rest in peace
    Love always
    James E Hudson

  35. Mickey Holland on April 14, 2020 at 4:30 pm

    My condolences to the McCray family
    Phyllis was a classy and sassy beautiful lady
    Rest in peace
    Love Mickey
    Your favvvorite cousin n law
    One love always

  36. Garry Andrews on April 15, 2020 at 8:42 pm

    Garry Andrews on April 15 2020
    Phyllis and family sorry for your lost
    I just enjoy being Phyllis I which I was a better
    friend in that she needs but God bless her
    soul hope that family will forgive me
    Much Love All of The Family. Garry

  37. Garry Andrews on April 16, 2020 at 11:52 pm

    Otis and Mattie Llody on April 17 2020
    We meet Phyllis on the ship thought Garry
    sorry for the your lost make god be with you
    and your family at this time we send all of 🙏
    to you and the family much love

  38. Marie McDuffy-McFadden on April 19, 2020 at 6:47 pm

    Phyllis my God-mother
    You brought me my first pair of gold earrings, but most importantly you there in my time of need with words of encouragement and Love
    I’m going to miss you tremendously and Love you forever
    Rest in peace
    Your God-daughter
    Marie McDuffy-McFadden

  39. Ryan McDuffy-McFadden on April 19, 2020 at 6:51 pm

    Ms. Phyllis whom I used to call Grandma
    I am going to miss your beautiful smile
    I will always love you Grandma
    Ryan McDuffy-McFadden

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