Stephen “Steve” Harold Wilder, 64 of Rochester, passed away unexpectedly on December 30, 2020. He was born March 3, 1956 to Jack and Mary (Shepardson) Wilder. He married Barbara Ann Pascucci on September 22, 1990. Steve enjoyed tinkering in the garage, spending time with his friends and family, and soaking up sun at his favorite vacation destination, Cocoa Beach, Florida. Steve could be stubborn and determined at times, but had a generous heart and loved fiercely.
He is survived by his wife Barbara; daughters Jennifer Wilder, Kelli (Will) Outlaw; son Brian (Haley Germano) Wilder; stepson Steve (Stephanie) Ruffino; brothers Mike (Lynn) Wilder and Jack (Mary) Wilder; sister Sue (Bill) Tones; grandchildren Ali and Alaina Ruffino, and Andrew Outlaw; sister-in-law Marge (John) Lynch; brother-in-law Mike (Amy) Pascucci; several nieces, nephews, friends, and his beloved dog Bella. He was preceded in death by his father Jack, mother Mary, and sister-in-law Meri.
Due to the COVID pandemic, services are deferred at this time with a celebration of life to be held at a later date.
NOTHING OF THE GENUINELY GOOD MAN THAT STEPHEN WAS – IS LOST. HIS WARMTH AND LAUGHTER AND GIVING NATURE IS NOW A PART OF THE FABRIC OF OUR MEMORIES. STEPHEN – BE AT REST FOR NOW AND THEN, WHEN YOU ARE READY, COME AND GIVE LOVING SIGNS TO ALL YOUR LOVED ONES AND LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU ARE WELL.
My condolences to the whole Wilder family. I hadn’t seen Steve since we were all kids on Dalkeith Rd., but I remember he was always a good friend to our family. Until we meet again, Fly high, Brother.
Many good times , many long years ago! Camping in the wilderness was always an adventure. Just loved my brother-in-law’. Missed him when he chose another chapter in his life!
I’m so glad I got to spend Fourth of July with you both. Steve was so good at busting my chops, never a dull moment when he was around! He will definitely be missed! Fly High Big Guy!! ❤️❤️
Steve you were so good to me and made many of my days good ones.
I will miss those burgers and fries and our time talking at the table.
Rest in peace ` I will miss you ` “Papa”
I am so sorry to learn of Steve’s passing. My deepest condolences to the family. Hoping your fond memories of him bring you some comfort.